But is it such a bad thing to live like this for just a little while? Just for a few months of one’s life, is it so awful to travel through time with no greater ambition than to find the next lovely meal? Or to learn how to speak a language for no higher purpose than that it pleases your ear to hear it? Or to nap in a garden, in a patch of sunlight, in the middle of the day, right next to your Favorited fountain? And then to do it again the next day?
You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestation of your own blessings.
—Elizabeth Gilbert (via purplebuddhaproject)
Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners.
—Laurence Sterne (via jealousyyouhavetoearn)
'Coercive passing' can be thought of as an alternative term to 'invisibility.' Whereas invisibility suggests that one is simply “unseen” in their marginalized identity, the concept of coercive passing suggests that one isn't simply invisible but actively perceived as something other than they experience themselves to be (as influenced by social construction and power hierarchies). Thus, being 'invisible' in fact means being actively, coercively passed off as a member of the default/hegemonic group, entailing erasure as well as more subtle forms of oppression.
This is particularly relevant to the concept of bisexual invisibility — taken from this perspective, it’s easy to understand that bisexuality and bisexual people are not invisible, but are being actively and coercively erased.